It was found that in male voles (yes voles), vasopressin helps keep the mate close and the competition far away- vasopressin activates bonding centres in your brain, making you feel attached and protective.NB – life events such as having a baby can put you back to Stage 3, while rekindling the passion (Date Nights, etc) can help you revisit Stage 1. A survey has revealed the five stages most relationships go through - and what each one entails.
What matters here is feeling that your thoughts values and beliefs as a person are heard and respected and ensures that you can both be your ‘truest’ selves without fear of rejection.
Stage 5: Stability This is the stage that takes over from the initial stages of lust and attraction – it’s here where deeper bonds are made and ideas about a shared future are constructed.
This lust is driven by the sex hormones Testosterone and Oestrogen.
Testosterone is not confined only to men (while it is known as a male sex hormone, women have levels of the hormone in their system as well) and it’s part of what drives desire, fantasy, and thoughts about sex, and even helps provide the energy for sex in both men women.
While Stages 1 and 2 were about ‘is this the right person for me?
’, Stage 3 looks at ‘is this the right relationship for me?
Stage 2: Building By making it to Stage 2, you have developed a deep physical attraction to the other person, fuelled by neuro-chemicals called ‘Monoamines’ including Dopamine, which is also activated by Class A drugs, and Adrenalin).
These literally get our hearts racing and produce Serotonin, the happiness chemical.
Two hormones that are likely to be released around this stage are believed to play an important role in social attachments – these are Oxytocin – which interestingly is released during child birth to help attachment between mothers and baby, and it’s also released by both men and women during orgasm and again is believed to effect bonding and intimacy.
The other is Vasopressin – another important chemical in the long-term commitment stage.
“There are a lot of commonalities among Australians when it comes to the important phases we go through in our dating journey,” e Harmony relationship expert and psychologist Jacqui Manning said.