The first thing to do when you find yourself attracted to a shy man is to question your feelings for him.
In other words, ask yourself "Am I attracted in spite of or because of his shyness? A very close friend of mine is extremely shy, and I know plenty of other guys that are shy. Shy guys, almost by definition, do not have the balls to initiate and pursue women.
Of course, he will question this over and over in his mind, wondering whether you were asking him to hang out just to be friends, or if you wanted something more.
If you are looking for an abundance of devotion, he has it to give.
So, in conclusion, if you are interested in a shy man, start by questioning that feeling.
The reason for this is that shy men are more concerned with avoiding the social catastrophe of asking you out and failing than they are of getting you.
This is what prevents them from taking the initiative in the first place.
(If nothing else, this will give you good insight into what it is like to be a man.) While all of this sounds like it might be too difficult to deal with - and many women will come to that conclusion - it is worth pointing out that if you can navigate through the difficult aspects of attracting and dating a shy man, he is likely to be completely faithful to you.
Due to the lack of female attention he has attracted or received, he is like an emotional spring that you will release.
" If you answer these questions sincerely and still want to date him, you then face the problem of making it happen - or rather, making him make it happen. They fall outside of the predator-prey model for sexual interactions that is assumed in the "don't initiate contact" rule.
So it is acceptable for you to initiate with a shy guy. The problem with male shyness is that it wears off in specific situations.
I've dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men.
If nothing else, this blog is an outlet for voicing my astonishment at the typical female's ignorance of the male mindset.
If they have even the slightest doubt about your intentions they will hold back.