Tinder, Happn and these other fancy apps hadn’t been invented. After completing my profile I sat back and waited for the messages to come pouring in. Just like in real life it was up to me as the man to make the approach. I don’t care what app or dating site you are on, as a man you need to be initiating conversations with tens of girls before you get a response. Below I’m going to outline a strategy you can use to ensure you are not one of those men, and increase the number of women you get from online dating to a first date. It is your role as a man to ask her out and either be rejected or win the prize. That shit is not only needy but it’s also incredibly creepy.
If the conversation is flowing, go for it as soon as possible.
If you get a sense she isn’t that in to you, build some more comfort by asking about her, before proposing the date. Ask: As with the transition message, you should ask this as part of an on-going conversation, not randomly out of the blue. But you are implying that you are about to ask her out.
If either of those situations occur, I will say “Cool. Again, notice how I am not phrasing it as a question.
I am giving an excuse to meet in real life (because I don’t like lots of messaging) and am just saying “if you agree that long messaging sucks then you should come on a date with me”.
I’m asking her if she which implies I don’t have time for anything longer and am not going to act needy on the date. If you know she lives close by I always get her to come to near me because I know the bars.
Once you know which days she is free, pitch the date. If she can’t, figure out where she is based and meet in the middle.
Most women will message me within 24 hours of the transition request.
If you haven’t heard from her within this timeframe a couple of things might have happened: Once she picks up the conversation on Whatsapp, save her name and number in your address book, and continue vibing.
If you or she is naturally a busy person, you can extend that timeline. If she takes 20 minutes to respond, mirror that timing. It’s highly unlikely that she will respond with “I’m busy everyday next week” because that sounds like bullshit.